My last post was in October with pumpkins and only one kid. I’ve been riding a bus ever since. The Struggle Bus.
If you know me in real life or follow me on Instagram, you know that I in fact had my second child. I don’t actually have the longest gestational period known to man. I’ve been meaning to write Ryan’s birth story for, oh, about six weeks now. However it seems like this post is appropriate for my first one back. I guess things are getting a little better, because it only took me two days to write this post. I miraculously had both boys sleeping in their rooms for a short time two days in a row.
I’ve never sugar-coated much in life, and there’s no point in starting now. This multiple kids thing is no joke. In the large scheme of things, John, my toddler, was an easy kid. Once I removed dairy from my diet (story here), he was a fantastic baby and a great sleeper. He was starting to embrace the toddler attitude prior to October, but was still pretty good-natured. He has always been on a schedule, and it was really nice to have a few hours in the evening kid-free.
Apparently I forgot I was going to have a newborn. John is still relatively on track, but Ryan is a free for all. I keep asking people if you just have to stop caring after the first kid. They pretty much just laugh. With John, I had all the time in the world to get him on a routine and sleeping on his own. Now, John needs to be active, go places, and be outside. And it always seems to be when Ryan needs to nap. Also, about two weeks into being a big brother, my sweet little boy turned into full on toddler mode with a side of jealousy and lots of “no, no, no.”
Ryan tends to have issues with bodily functions, and it flares up at night. He struggles to get a burp out and could end up screaming off and on for hours. If that doesn’t happen and he goes down well, he’ll stay awake for 1-2 hours after one of his night feedings. I’ve given up dairy again to see if it helps the gas pain and screaming, but so far there doesn’t seem to be much difference.
I always thought I could function well on little sleep, but this is a whole new ball game. In addition to that, its been exhausting having very minimal downtime to recharge. I reread my own post about tips for multiple kids, but I’m still open to suggestions. At the end of the day I’ve kept two tiny humans alive, but it would still feel nice to get back into the swing of things.